Who Let the Bogeyman into Neverland?
The bogeyman was Michael Jackson!The truth is surely now out. A very practiced pedophile MJ employed all the documented wiles of a pedophile using his enormous public image and adoration as a child-like angel of innocence and beneficence.But he knew how to groom his little boy victims and their families as well. He may have believed he loved these little boys but he surely induced them to trust, honor and deeply love him. He was persuasive but never forceful. His love came with the careful sexual seduction of the committed pedophile.All over his child-fantasy Neverland were hidden, guarded sites for secret sexual trysts, boy and man..
WHY DO MEN KILL THEMSELVES
Suicide spoke to me from across the room and on the phone. All men. And all were, at some critical point, suicidal. None ever made an attempt. Was the therapy, even in conjunction with medication, the preventative? Probably.
Most people who do commit suicide do it without warning, without seeking help or have given up on "help" (such as Anthony Bourdain).The pain of depression can become so unbearable, so caustic, so relentlessly oppressive that only suicide seems to offer relief. And once a suicide plan has been fixed, the suffering individual typically feels better, looks better and, to his or her intimates, acts as if improved. Because relief is on its way.
Who Enables Sexual Predators?
Who led the many teenage girls into Larry Nasser's closed-door office where he examined and treated them, unchaperoned, by inserting his ungloved finger into their vagina?
Predator-enablers cannot be viewed as accessories to Nasser's many hundred crimes. But they were abettors. How many coaches and athletes saw Jerry Sandusky flitting around prepubescent boys, many of whom he sodomized in the showers of Penn State Athletic buildings. Abettors also.What about the parents of the two prepubescent boys who were allowed to spend days and nights and weeks alone with Michael Jackson while he played penis and butt? Abettors also.
Sexual Abuse and Institutions
When the scandal about Catholic priests in Boston abusing children burst onto the front page all over America, an outrage against certain institutions began fomenting. Immersed in the world of the psyche, I have wondered about how institutions, unwittingly, provide opportunities for predators, and even indirectly promote predation within their own ranks. I also wonder about the predator. Do they enter institutions with the aim of using them to provide access to victims? Or is there a mysterious systemic complicity that induces or releases predatory behavior within the stated mission of the institution, whether religious worship, education, sports training, artistic enterprise, or summer camp?
PANZIL Unleashed
In 1997 I was struggling with an illness in my family while agonizing over a book I had been writing about severe cases of schizophrenia. My friend, David Gordon, seeing me distressed, suggested I take a break and write a children's book. David was an artist and longed to illustrate one. So we teamed up and produced this book about a young dragon,
The Sex Life of Tadpoles
Giving a speech at a conference on sexual abuse, I was asked if prepubescent girls and boys can, especially after a sexual assault, masturbate to orgasm, alone, independently.It’s a known fact that males can be sexually excited even when they are forced to have sex.
One in Ten?
While in Med school one of my friends, whom today one would call a "cis"—a totally straight guy, had a urological exam for prostatitis that involved prostatic massage. He bounced out of that clinic exclaiming, "Wow! Now I get why gay guys love anal sex."